Are you still scrambling to come up with the perfect Valentine’s gift for you sweetheart? This can be as difficult as holiday shopping, if even more challenging with so many things to take into consideration, like the status of your relationship – long term or short lived.
However, there are some basic rules.
Etiquette experts agree, a gift should never spark discomfort or controversy.’
Here are some of their etiquette rules for Valentine’s gift giving:
For couples who have just started dating, they should absolutely avoid anything that’s weight loss themed, including fitness equipment.
Even if you think your new significant other might love a Pilates class, it’s best to opt for something else that’s self-care focused, like a spa day – unless they ask specifically.
Gym memberships can also feel ‘insulting and judgmental.’
Lisa Mirza Grotts known as The Golden Rules Gal on Instagram, said it’s best women avoid gifting their new beaus ‘stereotypical manly gifts,’ like ‘tool equipment when they don’t enjoy man cave activities.’
Lisa said other no nos include novelty gag gifts that they might not understand, like a World’s Worst Dad T-shirt.
As for men who just started dating women and don’t know what to get them, to avoid household cleaning supplies, which Lisa said ‘implies they need domestic help.’
Lisa also listed anti-aging products as one of the worst options, as they can send ‘unintended message about their appearance.’
For couples who have been together for ages, it can be easy to get stuck in a gifting rut.
Lisa cautioned against generic gifts, like socks or ties.
Always skip items that are something you’d buy anyway for the household, like a bread or pasta maker.
Another offensive option is ‘a gift for yourself disguised as a gift for him,’ Lisa said.
For example, if your significant other. hates the theatre, don’t buy him front row seats to Wicked.
As for married couples, it’s still easy enough to offend. Lisa advised avoiding any chore-related items, including vacuum cleaners or ironing boards.
And while a one-year supply of Ozempic might be expensive, it’s still not going to be seen as a sweet present.
Low-effort gifts are another insulting category, including generic chocolates or flowers that aren’t her favorites.
Lisa said both feel ‘thoughtless and rushed.’