Robert & Nisha have been together six years and one month, married 4 years.
Who talked to who first? We met on BlackPeopleMeet.com, and Nisha sent Robert a “wink” to break the ice.
Who said “I love you” first? Nisha said “I love you” first.
Where do you go the most as a couple? We enjoy various community events such as: Heartland Black Chamber of Commerce programs; Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. programs; Kansas African American Museum programs; NAACP Banquet.
Who is more social? Nisha is more social.
Who is the neat-freak? Robert is the neat-freak.
Who is the most stubborn? Robert is the most stubborn, some things are non-negotiable.
Who wakes up earlier? Robert is an early riser, while Nisha enjoys sleeping in.
Where was your first date? Our first date was on Jan. 25, 2014, we danced the night away at a “Grown Folks Production” concert and dinner at the Marriott featuring jazz bassist Julian Vaughn.
Who has the craziest exes? Out of respect to our ex-spouses, we choose to focus our thoughts on our own relationship.
What is your secret to making marriage work? Nisha: Keep doing what you were doing while you were dating. For example, we continue to do the various “rituals” we established while dating, such as Friday night “movie nights” at home and drinking smoothies in the morning.
Robert: Keep the lines of communication wide open. We decided, while dating, to commit to openly communicating our thoughts and feelings to each other. That practice has become second nature for us now.
How did you figure out the household chores? Things just flowed in this regard. We didn’t sit down and assign duties to each other.
What have you learned to appreciate about your spouse that you did not know when you were first married? Nisha: Robert is constantly trying to get better in all aspects of his life and this has had a positive effect on me. Robert: Nisha has a laid-back approach on various aspects of life that has a calming effect on me.
What aspect of marriage were you most pleasantly surprised by? Our compatibility.
What do you think is the most challenging part of being married? This isn’t a challenge in the negative sense, but it is a challenge to grow into a marriage and make it get better over time.
What has been the greatest obstacle you have faced over the years? We’ve had a situation where one of our parents had/has a serious health issue. This has at times resulted in us being physically separated. However, in addressing this issue it has made our relationship stronger.
What’s one thing that your spouse does that makes you feel glad you married years ago? It’s hard for us to identify one thing about each other that makes us glad we got married. We can say that the love we give each other has made us better both individually and collectively.
What key advice before marrying would you have wanted? We can’t really answer this question, but if we were asked to give advice to someone before they got married, we would say that they should work on building up their future spouse with love.