Raymond and Kimberly have been together 37 years; married 36 years.
Who talked to who first? Kim spoke to Raymond first.
Who said “I love you” first? Raymond says he said I love you first, but we really don’t remember. We do remember that we only dated TWO weeks before Raymond proposed and Kim accepted. We were headed to the courthouse to get married!
Did you go to the same school? Kim grew up in Kansas City, KS, and Raymond in Thomasville, GA
Where do you go the most as a couple? Work and Church. We like to go out to eat. We like to travel. We went to Cancun, Mexico, for our 35th wedding anniversary.
Who is more social? Kim, I can’t go anywhere where I don’t know someone, and I am just a people person.
Who is the neat-freak? Raymond, he has OCD, he just likes to do things a certain way, even in the dishwasher.
Who is the most stubborn? Raymond, it’s not a bad-thing stubborn, he just likes what he likes and is often determined to see things through.
Who wakes up earlier? Raymond, even though we ride to work together, I like to sleep in until the last possible moment.
Where was your first date? WSU Football game
Who has the craziest exes? Neither.
What is your secret to making marriage work? Allowing God to be first in our individual lives and doing marriage according to God’s Word.
How did you figure out the household chores? We just do what needs to be done and the things that we like doing. Raymond has his “own” way of loading the dishwasher and I let him!
What have you learned to appreciate about your spouse that you did not know when you were first married? Kimberly: I’ve learned that Raymond is an excellent provider for his family and protector of his home. Raymond: I’ve learned to appreciate Kim’s view and perspective of different things about life, it helps me to look at some things differently.
What aspect of marriage were you most pleasantly surprised by? That we can work through our most difficult challenges IF we want to succeed in our marriage.
What do you think is the most challenging part of being married? Considering the other one’s needs, concerns and opinions over your own. You can’t be selfish in marriage.
What has been the greatest obstacle you have faced over the years? Allowing each other to develop and grow in order to succeed in the purpose that God has directed for our lives.
What’s one thing that your spouse does that makes you feel glad you married years ago? Kimberly: I don’t have one thing that my husband does, I’m grateful that he has followed God’s instructions about what a husband’s role in marriage should be. Raymond: My wife has always had an upbeat and uplifting personality in our marriage and with others.
If you could have been given a key piece of advice before marrying, what would it have been? Knowing that the marriages of our parents would not be exactly how our marriage would and should be. Accepting that we have two different histories and we can’t change history. Realizing that ONLY the two of us with God can make OUR marriage successful.
They are the parents of four children and the grandparents of 11.
Thank you for allowing us this opportunity to participate in the Love Couples for 2020.